Diary of a Hopeless|Hapless Lost-Boy

Mr. Libertine is: :: Non-Cisgendered Male :: WTF-ever-non-sexual :: Anti-theist Atheist :: Unpretty Azn :: Shameless Pervert :: Condescending Assface ::

Recite a poem.
Read the first page to one of your favorite books.
Read the little blurb on the back of your shampoo bottle.
Do a tongue-twister.
Say something in a different language. 
Share an anecdote.
Do the rains in Spain stay mainly on the plains?
Summarize the last film/TV episode you watched.
Let us hear your ringtone and text message sound.
Tell a joke. 
What did you have to eat today? 
Talk about something that really scares you.
Talk about something that makes you happy.
What is your favorite word?
What is your least favorite word?
What turns you on?
What turns you off?
What sound or noise do you love?
What sound or noise do you hate?
What is your favorite curse word?
What profession other than your own would you like to attempt?
What profession would you not like to do?
If Heaven exists, what would you like to hear God say when you arrive at the Pearly Gates?
If you’re brave enough, singing us a little song.

I don’t get asks much, but hopefully, someone will indulge me? :3 View high resolution
  1. Recite a poem.
  2. Read the first page to one of your favorite books.
  3. Read the little blurb on the back of your shampoo bottle.
  4. Do a tongue-twister.
  5. Say something in a different language. 
  6. Share an anecdote.
  7. Do the rains in Spain stay mainly on the plains?
  8. Summarize the last film/TV episode you watched.
  9. Let us hear your ringtone and text message sound.
  10. Tell a joke. 
  11. What did you have to eat today? 
  12. Talk about something that really scares you.
  13. Talk about something that makes you happy.
  14. What is your favorite word?
  15. What is your least favorite word?
  16. What turns you on?
  17. What turns you off?
  18. What sound or noise do you love?
  19. What sound or noise do you hate?
  20. What is your favorite curse word?
  21. What profession other than your own would you like to attempt?
  22. What profession would you not like to do?
  23. If Heaven exists, what would you like to hear God say when you arrive at the Pearly Gates?
  24. If you’re brave enough, singing us a little song.

I don’t get asks much, but hopefully, someone will indulge me? :3

(Source: geekykristie)

Always check your spam/’other messages’ folders.

You never know when you might get contacted by Al-Jazeera to be a part of a segment their having on their online show.

Because no matter how small a part or contribution you might give, it’s still Al-fucking-Jazeera.

… Oh well. Should I take solace in the fact that the segment pitched to me was ‘YouTube as a community space for transgender youth, and with video blogging’ but looking up the site, they broadened it to trans youth in general? OR SHOULD THAT MAKE ME FEEL WORSE? IDK.

Opportunities squandered I guess.

truebjdconfessions:

Wizardgalebjd is a fucking transphobic piece of shit who thinks they’re allowed to long rants of stupid bull crap about how trans-doll are okay even though they fetish people. No one wants to listen to your little cissy self so do us all a favor and get out. People like you don’t belong, and your dolls are cheap face up/no face up ugly little turds which probably just as hollow and cheaply made like you. You don’t belong in a hobby like this, your bull and dolls prove it. Get out.

~Anonymous

And here we have an example of what appear to be trans people who think their trans-ness is a valid excuse for their stupid and hatefully dickery~!

Note how they go attack someone over their being cis and stating what a good number of trans people in the hobby have also said! Watch as they scream transphobia and throw out random accusations without any justification, and attack the person in contention with them purely on the basis of their being cisgender! And what’s this? Ooooh, low blows and irrelevant personal attack on them and their dolls! What WONT the OP resort to, I wonder?

And we’re in for a treat! The notes reveal another self-righteous warrior type! Oh boy, what a treat folks, we might get to see more radical immature behaviour today, so lets all keep our eyes peeled and watch the hatefulness come rolling in!

truebjdconfessions:

Just an observation, but I’ve noticed there are a lot of trans people in the hobby, although I hardly ever see people like this in my day-today life. Are dolls like this attractive to people who are trans because you are able to customise your doll and ‘fix’ the gendered parts of them, factors you don’t necessarily have as much control over as a human?

~Anonymous

I am so sorry you have to put up with the shittastic replies or over the top rage and vitrol from some of these people, Anon.

Pay them no heed as their anger stems from a lack of reading comprehension of certain turn of phrases you used in your confession.

I get the feeling you feel like there are many trans people in the hobby because there is a distinctly more visible presence here than in other spaces. But truth be told, if you were more exposed to the trans population, you’d see that there aren’t actually that many of them in the hobby.

I do not doubt that on some level, the flexible gender expression and sexual characteristics of a doll come into play as part of their appeal. Not that that is the main or only motivator, but generally, any medium or platform that allows customising the presentation of a character greatly appeals to trans people, given that they often feel a lack of freedom to have this in their own lives. At least less so than that of a cis person.

The idea of living vicariously through a doll and fixing what you believe you are not yet able to about yourself is one possible appealing draw, but mind, that can apply to anyone who has any form of dissatisfaction with their ability to express themselves.

A lot of motivators you might think trans people might have for gravitating to this hobby is no different than that of any one else, bu I can honestly understand why you feel there is a correlation or that there are trends.

I think a more interesting question is what that is that there are disproportionately more FAAB (female assigned at birth) trans people than there are MAAB (male assigned at birth) trans people. This could be because the number of FAAB trans people on tumblr in general is much higher, but I do actually think their upbringing as female has a significant contribution to their exposure to the hobby and openness to accepting they like things deemed ‘girly’. (That is to say, the social conditioning to be more accepting of what is seen as feminity.)

And since you’re probably wondering, yes, there are as many excessively angry trans people outside the hobby as there are in.

So I’m quitting my job. Again.

Yeah, 5 months is all I lasted. The night shift is killing me. Hahahahaa.

In other news, I’m now a ball jointed doll collector.  I own 3 of those awesome fuckers. But I gotta stop spending so much on them, it’s crazy.

In other other news, PinoyFTM apparently has a slot to attend the WPATH (World… Professional(?) Association on Transgender Health?) Symposium in Bangkok and I was offered the chance to go to represent us.

Too bad it looks like it’s going to conflict with my resignation schedule. I would have LOVE to go. But then again, is it for the better that the staunchly transsexual loudmouth of the group (I mean me) is not the first rep these guys see from our group? LOL

I uploaded and wrote this entry more than 2 weeks ago:

I feel like I look really different these days. But then again, I feel really different.
I know I’ve always gotten bouts of angsty-ness and sometimes fall into a depression or general rut, but I always feel like it’s something different and wretched every time it happens.
It’s been building for quite some time, this time around. It doesn’t scare me the way my college-days depression did. It doesn’t make me feel sad and lonely either.
I just feel… Empty.
I’m not physically tired but I’m always drained, I don’t feel joy in doing any of the stuff that usually make me happy and I have sort of lost any sort of direction. I used to be able to find motivation in something. Be it just proving I wasn’t a complete fuck up, or actually trying to do well for myself. Now it’s all forcibly monotonous. Forcibly lest I roller coaster to an inevitable drop— better empty than sad, I tell myself.
I don’t know what I’m supposed to rely on anymore. I feel distant from my friends (are we really as much as we say we are?), I feel no satisfaction from work, I don’t know what I’m supposed to feel about my family. The best I can do, as always, is retreat to whatever form of escapism I can latch on to.
This time, it’s been dolls. Really expensive-ass ball jointed dolls. I think, maybe, I think I could use them to rebuild what I think I’m missing in my life. Get into a community again and be able to make friends and find something worth being happy about.
Who knows. 
I hope I get better at this whole ‘life’ thing, eventually.

It sat in my drafts. I didn’t know whether or not I wanted to publish it. Weeks later, I don’t know if anything’s changed. I feel more sad? Or not sad really. I can’t describe it very articulately. 
I don’t want to cry, I don’t want to wallow in misery. I just want to be happy again.
I always worry; “Did I bring this on myself?” Is it maybe the hormones? To which, my stomach turns at the thought of having to stop, but I always convince myself, the timelines aren’t correct. It happens consistently throughout your cycle. Nothing’s suddenly changed to make you feel this way. So I hope and pray that I can find something else to pin it on. Something that hasn’t been one of the few things to change my life for the better.
But then I think it’s all in my head sometimes. Like I make all this up and exaggerate and that these are the same things other people go through— I just suck at dealing with them.
I mean, while I’ve felt worse, I’ve also felt happier? Like a day or two where I feel like doing everything and feel ambitious at work and with my dolls. Like I can do things way beyond my actual capabilities and that nothing can go wrong if I try.
Hell, I even still laugh and smile and find simple joy in things. My problem is that there is no permanence. I laugh after the joke, and that’s it. The good feeling is gone as quickly as it came.
I tell myself I’m above my emo past. I would never again consider self harm, but at the same time, I find myself once again looking up, ‘out of curiosity’ I justify, what would happen if i jumped off our water tank. How much alcohol I needed to drink to get alcohol poisoning. How long before the train arrived would you have to walk in front of it to get hit.
I call myself stupid. Because I know I will not always be this way. So then maybe I figure I could just… take my wallet and leave. Disappear for a while maybe. How far could I get? I wonder. How long before anyone finds me? Would I cave in and visit a friend’s house not long after? Would I be able to live with being unable to fulfill my responsibilities at work?
I don’t know what to do with myself. So my only option now is to keep soldiering on and hope it gets better for me. 
That’s all I can do for now. View high resolution

I uploaded and wrote this entry more than 2 weeks ago:

I feel like I look really different these days. But then again, I feel really different.

I know I’ve always gotten bouts of angsty-ness and sometimes fall into a depression or general rut, but I always feel like it’s something different and wretched every time it happens.

It’s been building for quite some time, this time around. It doesn’t scare me the way my college-days depression did. It doesn’t make me feel sad and lonely either.

I just feel… Empty.

I’m not physically tired but I’m always drained, I don’t feel joy in doing any of the stuff that usually make me happy and I have sort of lost any sort of direction. I used to be able to find motivation in something. Be it just proving I wasn’t a complete fuck up, or actually trying to do well for myself. Now it’s all forcibly monotonous. Forcibly lest I roller coaster to an inevitable drop— better empty than sad, I tell myself.

I don’t know what I’m supposed to rely on anymore. I feel distant from my friends (are we really as much as we say we are?), I feel no satisfaction from work, I don’t know what I’m supposed to feel about my family. The best I can do, as always, is retreat to whatever form of escapism I can latch on to.

This time, it’s been dolls. Really expensive-ass ball jointed dolls. I think, maybe, I think I could use them to rebuild what I think I’m missing in my life. Get into a community again and be able to make friends and find something worth being happy about.

Who knows. 

I hope I get better at this whole ‘life’ thing, eventually.

It sat in my drafts. I didn’t know whether or not I wanted to publish it. Weeks later, I don’t know if anything’s changed. I feel more sad? Or not sad really. I can’t describe it very articulately. 

I don’t want to cry, I don’t want to wallow in misery. I just want to be happy again.

I always worry; “Did I bring this on myself?” Is it maybe the hormones? To which, my stomach turns at the thought of having to stop, but I always convince myself, the timelines aren’t correct. It happens consistently throughout your cycle. Nothing’s suddenly changed to make you feel this way. So I hope and pray that I can find something else to pin it on. Something that hasn’t been one of the few things to change my life for the better.

But then I think it’s all in my head sometimes. Like I make all this up and exaggerate and that these are the same things other people go through— I just suck at dealing with them.

I mean, while I’ve felt worse, I’ve also felt happier? Like a day or two where I feel like doing everything and feel ambitious at work and with my dolls. Like I can do things way beyond my actual capabilities and that nothing can go wrong if I try.

Hell, I even still laugh and smile and find simple joy in things. My problem is that there is no permanence. I laugh after the joke, and that’s it. The good feeling is gone as quickly as it came.

I tell myself I’m above my emo past. I would never again consider self harm, but at the same time, I find myself once again looking up, ‘out of curiosity’ I justify, what would happen if i jumped off our water tank. How much alcohol I needed to drink to get alcohol poisoning. How long before the train arrived would you have to walk in front of it to get hit.

I call myself stupid. Because I know I will not always be this way. So then maybe I figure I could just… take my wallet and leave. Disappear for a while maybe. How far could I get? I wonder. How long before anyone finds me? Would I cave in and visit a friend’s house not long after? Would I be able to live with being unable to fulfill my responsibilities at work?

I don’t know what to do with myself. So my only option now is to keep soldiering on and hope it gets better for me. 

That’s all I can do for now.

Why is cishet a thing and how do I make it stop?

thatsnothowitworks:

north-american-jingle-balls:

invictusbro:

north-american-jingle-balls:

Leave us trans* people the fuck alone you sack of shit

Transsexual man here. Still think cishet is some class A bullshit.

It’s literally short for cisgender heterosexual. It’s not a slur.

Congrats on the internalized transphobia though.

How is that internalized transphobia?

I don’t know how people on tumblr deny they’re using it as a slur. I have never seen a person use the portmanteau without a hint of malice and derogatorily.

No, it is not historically used as a slur, but do people expect the rest of us to believe they use the term neutrally?

Pffft. Yeah, fucking right.

nerdymouse:

if-you-shelter-me-too:

plansfornigel:

manwithoutahat:

plansfornigel:

home-of-amazons:

tehbewilderness:

maddieponine:

frostwitch:

is he talking about that little cut?
i was going to go to bed but it’s time to smack down so im gonna inform you all of a thing or two about the comparison between male and female victims of domestic violence that might shock you.
Similarities and differences between male and female victimsIn the South Australian study, the similarities between male and female victims of domestic violence included.
the reasons they remained in a relationship where there was violence and abuse
the triggers for violence and abuse;
feelings of shame and embarrassment associated with the disclosure of violence.
The ways in which male victims’ experiences of domestic violence differed from females’ were:
males reported that they were not living in an ongoing state of fear of the perpetrator;
males did not have prior experiences of violent relationships, and
males rarely experienced post-separation violence and, in the one reported case, it was far less severe than in male-to-female violence.
Female victims of domestic violence in the South Australian study confirmed the prevalence of physical, psychological, emotional, social and financial abuse (often in combination) as well as other intimidating or controlling forms of abuse, such as stalking, sleep deprivation or driving a car too fast (*The South Australian phone-in interviewed 120 callers, most of whom were female victims of violence. The female respondents reported all forms of abuse and often the various forms of abuse overlapped in one abusive event.) They also described patterns of extreme cruelty that often developed in long-term, violent relationships with ‘strategies’ of abuse becoming more diverse over time.
95% of those interviewed reported that they had experienced abuse over a period of years. In many relationships, acts of cruelty were carried out on the women, the children in the family (as primary and secondary victims) and on family pets. Humiliation, cruelty, jealousy, isolation from friends and family and the infliction of emotional, sexual or physical pain were common experiences. Victims frequently spoke of the abusers’ need to control all aspects of their life, both in and away from the house.
The link between the length of the relationship and the experience of cruelty was particularly notable, especially as the common theme in the women’s accounts was their daily experience of living in fear. The findings indicated that the vast majority of female victims were frightened of their partner, compared to none of the male victims.
Although there is some evidence that both men and women engage in abusive behaviour in heterosexual relationships, the nature and consequence of women’s violence is not equivalent to men’s in the following ways.
Men’s violence is more severe:
Women are more likely to be killed by current and former male partners than by anyone else;
most male homicides are committed by males in public places as a result of alcohol-related arguments;
the main reasons men kill their female partners are desertion, the ending of a relationship, and jealousy. However studies of wives who kill their husbands reveal that there is a history of marital violence in more than 70% of the cases and over half of the husband killings occur in response to an immediate threat or attack by the husband;
some studies suggest that women’s violence is more likely to be self defence where the male partner is violent;
men’s violence towards women is most often an attempt to control, coerce, humiliate, or dominate by generating fear and intimidation. However, women’s violence is more often an expression of frustration in response to their dependence or stress, or their refusal to accept a less powerful position; and
most women whose partners are violent live in fear before, during, and after separation from them. However male victims are far less likely to be afraid or intimidated, and are more likely to be angry.
-Bagshaw, D, Chung, D Couch, M, Lilburn, s & Wadham, B, Reshaping responses to domestic violence, Office for the Status of Women, Department of Prime Minister and Cabinet, Canberra 1999.
okay? i love how men experience a small portion of violence at the hands of women, like a fucking cut on his arm and he thinks he’s a full blown domestic abuse survivor worthy of shitting on all the experiences of the women who die or are hospitalised at the hands of male violence every fucking week.
like okay, it’s shitty that your girlfriend cut you or scratched you or whatever she did, i’m not sure it’s not clear but come back to me when you’ve had to spend years as a child watching your step dad pin your mum down on your bed while you were quietly playing just so he can spit on her face because she was trying to stand up for herself against him.
nobody says women can’t abuse men, the argument is that the abuse on female victims is far more severe and should be the main focus point, when you make posts like this you are actually erasing the entire struggle that we go through every day because you need to make your little issue front and centre and of course everyone cares about the white male’s issues more than anyone else!!!!

Not to mention male violence has historical and political context surrounding it. Men for thousands of years, globally have been using violence to subjugate, silence, and seek dominance over women. Female-to-male domestic violence is deviant, but male-to-female domestic violence is the norm and is systematically protected.

You would think that this would cause a person to reject the bogus teachings of the manly man’s “girls can’t” narrative so dear to the hearts of misogynists everywhere. But that would shake his world, so he will double down on the misogyny instead.

Wow, guy with a scratch on his hand, feminism doesn’t need you either, ’cause feminism is for women. Even if we were to give you the benefit of the doubt and believe that your injuries were severe and your life was in danger, people not taking you seriously is neither women’s fault nor women’s problem.

looks like a bite mark. women tend to bite hands that grab or choke them

Feminism in a nutshell.
It’s not victim blaming if it’s a man!
"It’s men’s fault and patriarchy’s fault Male abuse is minimized!" they scream as they (feminists) minimize male abuse.
Seriously, can you idiots hear yourself? The lack of self-awareness is absolutely jaw dropping.

i’m hearing an idiot right now. and yes, that’s a bite mark on his hand, bite your own hand and see, and indicative of a defensive injury. Bite marks on hands are often found on the hands of rapists and abusers, typically in cases where the assailant used strangulation.
Do you really worry about women assaulting you? if so, you are delusional. But you don’t really worry about violence from women, you worry about women being better than you, women laughing at you, women ignoring you. You worry about being compared to a women. You worry about dying alone-and well you should. You just want to defend males right to hit women, just like this joker.

Time to fucking smack down. Get over yourself dude. A scratch is a fucking scratch. My dog was laying on me earlier and got up really fast and scratched my arm. I didn’t get rid of him for it. I saw it was a fucking scratch. Had be bit me, or attacked me, then we have a different story.

Ok, here’s how ALL of you are fucking wrong in this. 
Yes, it may be A scratch on his hand, but not all attacks will create scars. Not all abuse is physical. There are PLENTY of women out there who abuse their partners, male or female.
How would I know that there’s women who are abusive and will do shit like that? I’ve LIVED with them. I’ve lived with abusive people with no physical scars to show for it. I’ve been choked, beat, had my belongings destroyed, been kicked out, threatened to have all of my things thrown out on the street, lived with people who have tried starting fights over minor things, dismissed my need for seeking psychological help, twisted into everything being my fault, made me feel like perhaps something is SERIOUSLY fucked up with me, etc.
You are seriously saying that men can’t be abused, that women can’t be abusive, and saying that he wasn’t abused because he doesn’t have any horrible bruising, massive scars and a sob story that he’s spilling out. You’re seriously also saying that his abuse wasn’t abuse because he’s a man.
Men are FAR less likely to report their abuse than women are. Men, like women, can run the risk of being murdered by their abuser. I’ve heard of multiple stories in which their abuser poisoned them for months, even years with low doses of poison. I’ve heard of men being beat around, starved, and humiliated… as well as forced to watch their abusive wife have sex with other men while he was unable to do anything.
Men and women have a hell of a lot in common in which both are cable of being cruel and horrible individuals, are capable of being abused, and of being amazing human beings.
All of you women should be FUCKING ASHAMED of yourselves. Victim blaming and dismissing abuse simply because it doesn’t match your standard of what abuse is based off of a single thing that reminds him of abuse that quite possibly was on a larger scale.
If you consider yourselves feminists, then congrats. You proved him RIGHT. Hell, if anything… that looks more like a scratch from a knife rather than a bite mark. I am ashamed of all of you assholes.

I am sick to my stomach reading the previous responses. You are all disgusting, hateful and hypocritical human beings. You dismiss a person’s suffering— and in fact, the suffering of a whole lot of people— because you want to play oppression Olympics?Fuck. You. You are no better than people who tell rape victims their assault was their fault for the way they dress, or that people taken advantage of are overreacting if they do not fit your narrow idea of victimisation. And guess what, by denying male victims exist, you’re shitting on the very notion that women can have power. Congratu-fucking-lations, this is the facet of feminism that makes people despise the movement. View high resolution

nerdymouse:

if-you-shelter-me-too:

plansfornigel:

manwithoutahat:

plansfornigel:

home-of-amazons:

tehbewilderness:

maddieponine:

frostwitch:

is he talking about that little cut?

i was going to go to bed but it’s time to smack down so im gonna inform you all of a thing or two about the comparison between male and female victims of domestic violence that might shock you.

Similarities and differences between male and female victims
In the South Australian study, the similarities between male and female victims of domestic violence included.

  • the reasons they remained in a relationship where there was violence and abuse
  • the triggers for violence and abuse;
  • feelings of shame and embarrassment associated with the disclosure of violence.

The ways in which male victims’ experiences of domestic violence differed from females’ were:

  • males reported that they were not living in an ongoing state of fear of the perpetrator;
  • males did not have prior experiences of violent relationships, and
  • males rarely experienced post-separation violence and, in the one reported case, it was far less severe than in male-to-female violence.

Female victims of domestic violence in the South Australian study confirmed the prevalence of physical, psychological, emotional, social and financial abuse (often in combination) as well as other intimidating or controlling forms of abuse, such as stalking, sleep deprivation or driving a car too fast (*The South Australian phone-in interviewed 120 callers, most of whom were female victims of violence. The female respondents reported all forms of abuse and often the various forms of abuse overlapped in one abusive event.) They also described patterns of extreme cruelty that often developed in long-term, violent relationships with ‘strategies’ of abuse becoming more diverse over time.

95% of those interviewed reported that they had experienced abuse over a period of years. In many relationships, acts of cruelty were carried out on the women, the children in the family (as primary and secondary victims) and on family pets. Humiliation, cruelty, jealousy, isolation from friends and family and the infliction of emotional, sexual or physical pain were common experiences. Victims frequently spoke of the abusers’ need to control all aspects of their life, both in and away from the house.

The link between the length of the relationship and the experience of cruelty was particularly notable, especially as the common theme in the women’s accounts was their daily experience of living in fear. The findings indicated that the vast majority of female victims were frightened of their partner, compared to none of the male victims.

Although there is some evidence that both men and women engage in abusive behaviour in heterosexual relationships, the nature and consequence of women’s violence is not equivalent to men’s in the following ways.

  • Men’s violence is more severe:
  • Women are more likely to be killed by current and former male partners than by anyone else;
  • most male homicides are committed by males in public places as a result of alcohol-related arguments;
  • the main reasons men kill their female partners are desertion, the ending of a relationship, and jealousy. However studies of wives who kill their husbands reveal that there is a history of marital violence in more than 70% of the cases and over half of the husband killings occur in response to an immediate threat or attack by the husband;
  • some studies suggest that women’s violence is more likely to be self defence where the male partner is violent;
  • men’s violence towards women is most often an attempt to control, coerce, humiliate, or dominate by generating fear and intimidation. However, women’s violence is more often an expression of frustration in response to their dependence or stress, or their refusal to accept a less powerful position; and
  • most women whose partners are violent live in fear before, during, and after separation from them. However male victims are far less likely to be afraid or intimidated, and are more likely to be angry.

-Bagshaw, D, Chung, D Couch, M, Lilburn, s & Wadham, B, Reshaping responses to domestic violence, Office for the Status of Women, Department of Prime Minister and Cabinet, Canberra 1999.

okay? i love how men experience a small portion of violence at the hands of women, like a fucking cut on his arm and he thinks he’s a full blown domestic abuse survivor worthy of shitting on all the experiences of the women who die or are hospitalised at the hands of male violence every fucking week.

like okay, it’s shitty that your girlfriend cut you or scratched you or whatever she did, i’m not sure it’s not clear but come back to me when you’ve had to spend years as a child watching your step dad pin your mum down on your bed while you were quietly playing just so he can spit on her face because she was trying to stand up for herself against him.

nobody says women can’t abuse men, the argument is that the abuse on female victims is far more severe and should be the main focus point, when you make posts like this you are actually erasing the entire struggle that we go through every day because you need to make your little issue front and centre and of course everyone cares about the white male’s issues more than anyone else!!!!

Not to mention male violence has historical and political context surrounding it. Men for thousands of years, globally have been using violence to subjugate, silence, and seek dominance over women. Female-to-male domestic violence is deviant, but male-to-female domestic violence is the norm and is systematically protected.

You would think that this would cause a person to reject the bogus teachings of the manly man’s “girls can’t” narrative so dear to the hearts of misogynists everywhere. But that would shake his world, so he will double down on the misogyny instead.

Wow, guy with a scratch on his hand, feminism doesn’t need you either, cause feminism is for women. Even if we were to give you the benefit of the doubt and believe that your injuries were severe and your life was in danger, people not taking you seriously is neither women’s fault nor women’s problem.

looks like a bite mark. women tend to bite hands that grab or choke them

Feminism in a nutshell.

It’s not victim blaming if it’s a man!

"It’s men’s fault and patriarchy’s fault Male abuse is minimized!" they scream as they (feminists) minimize male abuse.

Seriously, can you idiots hear yourself? The lack of self-awareness is absolutely jaw dropping.

i’m hearing an idiot right now. and yes, that’s a bite mark on his hand, bite your own hand and see, and indicative of a defensive injury. Bite marks on hands are often found on the hands of rapists and abusers, typically in cases where the assailant used strangulation.

Do you really worry about women assaulting you? if so, you are delusional. But you don’t really worry about violence from women, you worry about women being better than you, women laughing at you, women ignoring you. You worry about being compared to a women. You worry about dying alone-and well you should. You just want to defend males right to hit women, just like this joker.

Time to fucking smack down. Get over yourself dude. A scratch is a fucking scratch. My dog was laying on me earlier and got up really fast and scratched my arm. I didn’t get rid of him for it. I saw it was a fucking scratch. Had be bit me, or attacked me, then we have a different story.

Ok, here’s how ALL of you are fucking wrong in this.

Yes, it may be A scratch on his hand, but not all attacks will create scars. Not all abuse is physical. There are PLENTY of women out there who abuse their partners, male or female.

How would I know that there’s women who are abusive and will do shit like that? I’ve LIVED with them. I’ve lived with abusive people with no physical scars to show for it. I’ve been choked, beat, had my belongings destroyed, been kicked out, threatened to have all of my things thrown out on the street, lived with people who have tried starting fights over minor things, dismissed my need for seeking psychological help, twisted into everything being my fault, made me feel like perhaps something is SERIOUSLY fucked up with me, etc.

You are seriously saying that men can’t be abused, that women can’t be abusive, and saying that he wasn’t abused because he doesn’t have any horrible bruising, massive scars and a sob story that he’s spilling out. You’re seriously also saying that his abuse wasn’t abuse because he’s a man.

Men are FAR less likely to report their abuse than women are. Men, like women, can run the risk of being murdered by their abuser. I’ve heard of multiple stories in which their abuser poisoned them for months, even years with low doses of poison. I’ve heard of men being beat around, starved, and humiliated… as well as forced to watch their abusive wife have sex with other men while he was unable to do anything.

Men and women have a hell of a lot in common in which both are cable of being cruel and horrible individuals, are capable of being abused, and of being amazing human beings.

All of you women should be FUCKING ASHAMED of yourselves. Victim blaming and dismissing abuse simply because it doesn’t match your standard of what abuse is based off of a single thing that reminds him of abuse that quite possibly was on a larger scale.

If you consider yourselves feminists, then congrats. You proved him RIGHT. Hell, if anything… that looks more like a scratch from a knife rather than a bite mark. I am ashamed of all of you assholes.

I am sick to my stomach reading the previous responses. You are all disgusting, hateful and hypocritical human beings. You dismiss a person’s suffering— and in fact, the suffering of a whole lot of people— because you want to play oppression Olympics?

Fuck. You. You are no better than people who tell rape victims their assault was their fault for the way they dress, or that people taken advantage of are overreacting if they do not fit your narrow idea of victimisation.

And guess what, by denying male victims exist, you’re shitting on the very notion that women can have power. Congratu-fucking-lations, this is the facet of feminism that makes people despise the movement.

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I don’t think I will ever understand why we need those recently invented GQ pronouns.

What is wrong with singular they?

How is it misgendering if someone calls you neutral singular they instead of ze/hir/wtfever when they both express gender neutrality?

Travelling while Trans.

Travelling out of the country while completely living and passing as male, all the while having  female-only documents.

And more life updates like participating in Movember & acne medication, etc.

fightingweakness:

thatsnothowitworks:

the-call-of-cthulhu:

Oh god underworks changed their website and I dont think they sell the binder I want anymore. WHERE DID THEIR FTM SECTION GO?

Yeah, I’m wondering where they put the doublefront at.

Double Front Compression 997

Just in case there are those who aren’t aware, Underworks has always had 2 versions of their site. Formerly, it used to be www.underworks.com and ftm.underworks.com, most people I knew couldn’t tell because the sites looked EXACTLY alike.

Now, ftm.underworks.com redirects www.f2mbinders.com, which instead of just being an exact mirror, actually shows the products on trans dudes and is branded differently. Compare for example, the above link to this one also of what was formerly called Double Front Compression 997.

If you were to ask me WHY they’ve got two versions selling the same products, that, I couldn’t say for sure tho. :))

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I wonder if there is any sort of organized trans groups here in Cambodia.

It just makes me wonder since we share enough culture and they share even more in common with Thailand which is just as active in lobbying for trans issues or more so than we are.

Makes me wonder.

Hung out at a Gay Bar fir the first time!

I find it really funny that my first expedition to a gay bar happens here in Cambodia.

Like back home, most local boys in the prowl for foreigners are uber twinky.

There was a drag show though. That was good. The performers were all really energetic and even friendly when Jess asked them for pics.

The perpetual downside just is that Jess and I probably always look like a straight couple. OTL

In Cambodia until the end of next week.

I hope my boys don’t get into trouble without me and my officemates handle client well.hh

Sometimes, I feel like I want a relationship bad enough to do all the things I usually consider ridiculously pathetic.

Because I really wanna know what it’s like to be in one.

But then again, the only thing I don’t consider ‘desperate’ is if it happens in the slow friendship to slow attraction to slow realization to slow courtship formula. Because I’m weird and romantically foolish that way.

What if I agreed to go out with a couple of those straight boys back in highschool, I wonder. Or that perky girl. Hmmm.

It’s not even the trans thing that’s the hindrance, imo. I think it’s the weight or even more likely the fact that I find it so difficult to relate to most people here. But damned if the trans thing isn’t a close third. Or wait, is it forth?

Things people need to get over: My weird personality > My appearance > Homosexuality > Transgenderism > Asexuality

Yep, fourth. Dammit take me to North America where you can find people attracted to shorty pudgy non sexual southeast asian dudes.