And probably some trans folks too.
Recently, I’ve come to admit that, yes, I think most people who identify as GQ would completely be cis if we lived in a society that did not demand confrmation to gender roles or gender stereotypes. From what I could tell, a lot of GQ people do really only have their identity because of gender roles and gender presentation.
Though intersex individuals exist, a lot of the GQ people (on tumblr at least) have preferences of what they want their bodies to be.I’ve never really seen anyone desire a body that wasn’t explicitely male or female (No one’s ever really said they wanted a body with True hermaphroditism) so then the basis of their genderqueer-ness becomes dependent solely on gender roles and stereotypes.
I hate when people say sex is a social construct because it’s not. Gender roles are, but sex, your physical sex, is scientific. So this then is what we call gender, and I have no problem with that definition.
So since most genderqueer people are GQ only because of gender and not so much because of sex, I want to bring back the use of the word cissexual. If agenders, bigenders, genderqueers do not want to be thought of as cisgender, but are completely fine with the bodies they have, then fine. I don’t see any problem with you rejecting the word cisgender.
However, I’m now going to have to call you cissexual; meaning that you may be transgender in the ense that you do not fit into the gender society expected you to take, but you are not a transsexual because you have no desire to change your sex.
I think that’s a fair compromise, don’t you?
Because I really think there ought to be a distinction between us, you the gq trans masculine fellow who might ascribe to male gender roles but still desire their female body, and I who may not fit in to all the male gender roles but still very much desire a male body.
And maybe then, if this compromise pleases you, maybe we can stop getting cissexual trans people going on hormones or getting srs, and sometimes later regretting it. Because I’m sorry but no matter how much you try to fight it, the fact is, that does hurt me as a transsexual. Especially when you de-transition. Especially when you don’t completely understand what you’re getting into before you do it.
In a perfect world, where they’ve made good SRS available everywhere and they’ve minimized the negaticve effect os going on HRT, then maybe then, I wouldn’t care if anyone, even cisgender cissexual people got on hormones, but until that day comes, you’re going to have to live with me wanting to keep these things properly regulated, and even, yes, policed.